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Topics: Parenting, Mental Health
Jen Thomas
Every parent worries about the right way to raise their child, with so many mixed messages found online.
Whether it's the terrible twos, pushing boundaries at they grow, or even the temperamental teenage years, Dr Becky Kennedy has got some top tips for your parenting toolbox.
The child psychologist has shared three phrases which are specifically meant to be used when your little one is experiencing any sort of emotional pain.
There's nothing worse than when your loved one is upset, especially if they are very young and struggle to explain their feelings.
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Dr Kennedy swears by these three phrases, which she says can help to boost a child's emotional resilience and intelligence.
Dr Kennedy said telling your child this phrase is key for making them want to open up more in future.
She explained that by saying this you're telling them that 'this feeling you're feeling in you is real, and I still want to be in a relationship with you when you're feeling that way'.
The psychologist said that using this phrase is also a great way of validating what your child is feeling.
Gratitude is an important part of any relationship, but sharing with your children explicitly tells then that you still care for them and their feelings even when they are angry or upset.
Dr Kennedy noted that kids need to 'absorb' that their parents can handle the emotional parts of them, so that they can learn to handle it and tolerate it in themselves.
Telling your child 'I believe you' is a core part of earning trust and getting them to open up to you when it is most important, according to Dr Kennedy.
Many people accuse children of lying or exaggerating, which can lead to them not wanting to talk to their parents if they fear not being believed.
Dr Kennedy explained: "If there's one line that would be probably the most healing and the most confidence building from childhood, it's that."
She said it's 'so simple' but effective.
The third most useful phrase Dr Kennedy swears by is 'tell me more'.
This is because a child has taken the first and hardest step by starting to tell you what is wrong, and by not only listening and paying attention but reassuring them it's safe to say more, you're increasing that bond.
Social media users have been raving about Dr Kennedy advice, with one writing: "So true! Kids need to feel safe, heard, and connected."
Another added: "I appreciate you so much. This is invaluable information."
While someone else claimed: "'I believe you' would have changed my life as a kid."