There are many ways in which mothers choose to empower and uplift their children but is buying them a vibrator such a good idea?
One mum penned an anonymous open letter on KidSpot explaining why she has chosen to embrace the idea of masturbation and would even go as far as purchasing a sex toy for her daughter if asked.
In her essay, the mother explains that there was an awful negativity surrounding sex and intimacy in her family, with her own mum calling her a ‘dirty girl’ once she learned of her sexual activities.
Instead of giving the birds and the bees talk, her mum instead talked about masturbation ‘as something that was shameful and unnatural’ and that it wasn’t until she watched a TED Talk about it that her perspective changed.
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In the talk, Dr Robin Buckley spoke about why she gave her daughter a vibrator when she was 13 and it resonated with the anon mum.
Dr Buckley explained: "I knew eventually my daughters would need bras and tampons, maybe braces. But a vibrator was not on the list."
As a wave of nausea hit the original poster while listening to the talk, it allowed her to understand the age that girls come to experiment.
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According to the Doctor, girls develop the desire for sexual activities or mild sexual contact between age 11 and 14 and tend to go through with it between 15 and 19.
But it’s not just sex, it’s also sexual content such as pornography.
The expert suggests that ‘57 percent of girls and 84 percent of boys between the ages of 14 and 18 have watched pornography’.
“This means that a lot of our kids are getting their sex education and trying to figure out what’s normal from pornography,” Dr Buckley said.
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It was during a consultation with a patient that Dr Buckley realised that porn wasn’t providing clear enough education about romping to these teenagers, so when her 13-year-old daughter admitted to starting to masturbate and with what, she decided to intervene and buy her a vibrator.
“I wanted to support her in the safe exploration of her body,” Dr Buckley said. “Girls becoming familiar with their bodies is about health. Masturbation helps girls reduce stress, ease headaches and alleviate cramps associated with their periods.
“They have to touch their bodies to know their bodies.”
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This was when the anonymous writer decided that she agreed with the TED Talk, and that she would do her best to provide a safe and informative place for her daughter when the time comes.
The mum also noted that if her daughter asked her to, she would purchase a vibrator for her.
Topics: Parenting, Sex and Relationships
Britt Jones