People have rushed to defend a man who declined to help his friend after not receiving an invite to their wedding.
Everyone understands that narrowing down the guestlist to your wedding can be a full-on process.
It’s a balancing act that involves keeping your in-laws happy, your parents happy, all while making sure that you have actually met everyone that is coming… which usually isn’t the case.
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However, one man was left upset after he didn’t receive an invite to a friend's wedding, despite the couple requesting that he looked after their animals over summer.
The absolute audacity.
The anonymous man posted to Reddit saying that he had met his mate, John, in his mid 20s, and noted that he had been friends with his partner, Jane, since the day they started dating.
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He wrote: “I’ve helped them out with other projects/tasks over the years and most recently picked up Jane from the airport returning from a work-trip and got her home this past winter during a snowstorm because my vehicle could handle it.
“Generally, I have been present and helpful on top of our base friendship.”
But after finding out that they had invited everyone in their friendship group apart from him, the man was admittedly miffed.
Sadly, he also noted in the post that he’s been isolated from his straight friends in the past, as someone who identifies as gay, and was encouraged to evaluate how he spends his ‘time and energy with people’.
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After a back and forth between the pair, they decided to exchange a phone call, where the man brought up he was ‘disappointed’ not to be invited to their big day.
He added: “I can’t be helping like I have before if I’m just a background friend at this point.”
The man then said he was contacted by Jane, who said that her fiancé was ‘upset’ following the phone call.
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He wrote: “[She said] I am taking this the wrong way, there is only so much capacity and that the others in our friend group have partners that took up space.
“She adds that she hopes I’ll change my mind and help them out because it would put John’s mind at ease.”
He concluded: "I’m not entitled to the company of others or invitations to anybody’s events, but am I wrong for setting my own boundaries in response to theirs?
"I try not to frame my friendships as transactional, but they obviously want something out of me here despite their not inviting me and then avoiding even bringing it up with me until they needed help with covering their honeymoon."
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Reddit users flooded the comments section with support for the anonymous man, with one saying: “What a bogus excuse.
“If your ‘friends’ need someone to check up on their animals and property when they are on their honeymoon after a wedding you weren’t invited to, they can ask another friend or family member.
“The audacity of some people astounds me.”
Another added: “This sounds like a really one sided friendship and that they are taking your friendship for granted.
“Why would you keep putting time and energy into them?”
A third wrote: “He expects you to be here for him, but he wasn’t there for you.
“I don’t blame you for being hurt.”
Topics: Wedding, Sex and Relationships, Reddit
Mia Williams