Man Wants ‘Divorce’ After Finding Out His Wife Secretly Changed Their Baby’s Name

A dad has revealed how he is considering divorce after finding out his wife changed their baby's name behind his back.

Taking to Reddit, the man explained that he and his wife share a one-year-old baby daughter, whose name he chose after she was born.

While the mum was pregnant, the pair had agreed that if the baby was a boy, then the wife could choose the name, and if it was a girl, then the husband could. But, they were both able to veto if they didn't like it.

The husband explained, however, that his wife became adamant she was having a boy during pregnancy, even throwing a baby boy themed shower prior to finding out.

But one year after welcoming a girl instead, the husband says he caught his wife talking about their daughter with her mother, but calling her by a totally different name.

Added to that, the name she had chosen to use was the feminine version of the name she had chosen for a boy.

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"When my wife and I were trying to get pregnant, we had a deal that if we have a boy, she would get to choose the full name and if we had a daughter I would," the husband explained.

"I was fine with this deal but we both had a veto in case we didn't like the name the other had chosen. Once we got pregnant, my wife was completely sure that we're having a boy because 'a mother knows.' Her entire family was convinced of it too. "During baby shower, everything was blue and all the gifts were demanded to be masculine. Her mother had already started knitting things with the name my wife had chosen.

"Once the baby came, we saw it was a girl and I was ecstatic because, although I wanted both a boy and a girl, I always imagined my first born to be a girl. My wife, though seemingly exhausted, was happy too. When I wrote the name in the birth certificate, I let her know I was using the name I had already run past her."

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The husband explained that 12 months later, he overheard his wife referring to his daughter by a different name.

"A year later, I come home from work and I find my MIL and wife there talking about my daughter, only they are using another name. When I inquired who they were talking about, they kinda went deer in headlights and blurted that they were talking about daughter.

"When I asked why they were using another name, my MIL said because that's what we decided to name her. Then she went on a rant about how it's unfair that I chose the name and how it's completely unsuitable for her, etc. I was shocked because this was the first time anyone had claimed any objections to the name."

The husband explained that he now believes the reason his daughter 'has trouble recognising her name' is because two are being used.

"My wife later came to me suggesting we officially get her name changed and I stuck to my guns and told her we are not doing that and she needs to stop," he continued.

"This led to a fight about how unsupportive I am and stole her right to name the child she gave birth to. I told her that the opportunity to veto any name is long gone and she can't expect me to support something this stupid. Here's the worst part. I could be convinced to change the first name but the one she wants is a very odd feminine version of the name she wanted for her son.

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"Imagine using a female version of the name Drake or Thomas. She got angry and left both my daughter and I and went to her parents. Her entire family except my FIL is calling me controlling and how it's unfair I chose the entire name and made it all about myself."

The husband explained he is even considering divorce after what has happened and asked Reddit for their opinions.

People were pretty shocked, with one person commenting: "It is creepy. Your wife in cahoots with your mother-in-law over the name and they didn’t bother to tell you anything is a big betrayal."

While another said: "If she didn't like it, she had the opportunity to veto it, but she didn't.

"She approved the name OP picked and doesn't get to take that back a year later. She especially doesn't get to confuse the poor kid by calling her a completely different name."

A third added: "The baby is a year old. If she had a problem with the name she should have tried talking to you when the baby was born. Divorce might be a good second choice but couples therapy is a must."