A bride asked for a divorce the day after her partner pulled a 'mean' prank on their wedding day.
A post submitted to Slate's Dear Prudence advice column saw one woman explain how, while not initially interested in a wedding, she said 'yes' when her boyfriend proposed in 2020.
She wrote: “I got married just before Christmas and am hoping to be divorced or annulled by the end of January."
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After getting engaged, the woman explained how the pair agreed to split the arduous task of wedding planning - so far, so good.
While she no doubt looked forward to tossing her bouquet or their first dance together as Mr and Mrs - one new trend that she vetoed was the 'wedding day cake smash'.
The messy trend sees newlyweds cutting a piece of their wedding cake and 'smashing' it in their partner's face during the reception.
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The woman explained: "My only hard-and-fast rule was that he would not rub cake in my face at the reception.
“Being a reasonable man who knows me well, he didn’t.
“Instead, he grabbed me by the back of the head and shoved my head down into it."
But it was when he had backup cupcakes to replace the now destroyed sweet treat that she realised that this wasn't a spur of the moment impulse and that their marriage was over before it had even started.
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She said that when the boundary was crossed there was no going back, writing: “I left. Next day I told him we were done. I am standing by that."
The woman shared that a car accident left her very claustrophobic and having her head forced into a cake and held there made her panic.
But she was then encouraged by friends and family to 'give him a second chance' because she was 'overreacting because of my issues'.
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She said their intervention made her doubt her conviction because 'everyone is so united and confident in their assurance I am making a terrible mistake that I wonder if they are right'.
The woman signed off asking Prudence if she should give her still spouse 'Till February'.
Prudence encouraged the newlywed to listen to her gut, labelling the groom's refusal to listen to his bride and her wishes a 'red flag'.
She also signposted the 'physical aggression', encouraging the woman to 'make a mental note about which of your loved ones don’t seem to value your happiness, and continue with your divorce'.
The letter went viral on Reddit, with many users agreeing that they 'would walk away too'.
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Another added: “One of the worst parts about this was he could have seriously injured her.”
While a third said: "If he loved her, he would’ve respected her wishes."
Valese Jones, the Founder of Sincerely Nicole Media, who went viral for her take on the stunt, told GLAMOUR: "Men who get joy out of humiliating their wives under the guise of it being a joke tend to lack respect for women as humans.
"They don’t care about boundaries and I’ve often seen them diminish anything their wife to be cares about."
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Topics: Sex and Relationships, Wedding
Amelia Jones