'Happily married' dad says having regular affairs is secret to successful relationship
One dad who claims he is 'happily married' says having regular affairs is the secret to having a successful relationship.
Nate, in his 30s, has revealed he's been having routine affairs for the past seven years, and swears it's the key to a strong and healthy marriage.
The husband and father has had five affairs since he first tied the knot with his wife and began doing so because his sex life at home is 'too vanilla'.
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Speaking to FEMAIL, Nate explained he grew tired of always being the one to initiate sex and create romantic evenings to 'no avail'.
According to the bloke, his extramarital affairs are the perfect tonic to give him the extra the 'spice' he's looking for in the bedroom department.
"I only see one woman at a time - juggling multiple women is way too stressful," he explained.
Nate finds such women on the discreet dating platform, Ashley Madison.
He continued: "We meet up for some passionate sex during the day while we're both at work at our flexible jobs and can take time off or in the evening, when we both have a decent excuse to get out. Overnights can be tricky for both of us."
"We chat through web-based chat or video chat apps - Telegram, Google chat etc. and I usually chat during work hours or late evening."
Nate revealed that he's pretty stealthy when it comes to his various affairs, claiming he doesn't keep any incriminating apps, messages, photos or videos on his phone.
Taking it one step further, the married man also has a separate bank account that he uses to withdraw cash to pay for dates, gifts and hotel visits.
He said: "Some women I've had affairs with prefer to use their home - it's safe, familiar to them and a turn on having wild sex in ways and in places around their house they never would with their husband."
When asked about whether or not he feels guilty for the affairs, Nate explained he only felt the guilty at the very start: "My first one wasn't planned and was with a senior director at work. She was at least 10 years older, very attractive, gorgeous figure, took care of herself and had her boobs done.
"We were both a bit drunk, it was late, no one else was around and well… one thing led to another."
Nate said that afterwards he felt 'just awful' and swore he'd 'never do anything like that again'.
"She seduced me again though and after that, we had an incredible time together and I learned to compartmentalise those feelings of guilt and just enjoy this incredible woman, her sexual energy and the fantasies we were living out together," he admitted.
The man went on to explain he's seen the benefit within his marriage and that, as long as he doesn't get caught, he's happy to continue with the cheating.
He said: "My wife and I are really good friends and spend a lot of quality time together. We still have sex regularly and I always make sure she's satisfied but it's just very dull, very vanilla, and not exciting enough despite my efforts to spice things up.
"Having an affair has allowed me to let off a bit of stream, explore those fantasies I have, have incredible, passionate sex with a woman who also has strong, sexy desires and treat her."
Nate added that even throughout his whirlwind romances with various women whilst in a marriage, he has been 'very careful' about setting certain boundaries.
He noted: "I've been very careful and have drawn the line in places where I feel I might be getting in too deep with someone, where it's becoming much more than just mutual sexual pleasure and fun."
Topics: Sex and Relationships
Rhiannon Ingle